10 Sex Toys for Everyone — And How to Use Them

A version of this first appeared on The Advocate. As many queer kink communities have brought to the forefront, sex is nothing if not play. Adult play should be fun, and as many of us have known our entire lives, nothing makes play more fun than adding a good toy.However, finding the perfect sex toy can be a long and arduous task, particularly when you may not know all that exists at your disposal. Luckily, we’ve decided to make it easy and compile a list of 10 toys you could consider incorporating. Regardless of how you identify or who you like to play with, this list will include something that will work for you! Guided by the expert advice of sex educator Irma Garcia, this list includes not only a list of toys, but also tips and tricks on how to use them. Before we dive in, Garcia says there are two important things to keep in mind. First, to remember to buy and use toys safely. Don’t buy sex toys from unverified retailers because they may produce toxic toys, and make sure to buy toys made of medical-grade silicone. When it comes to cleaning, make sure to clean them before and after every use. Secondly, she says to remember that this is meant to be play. “Incorporating toys will probably come with some trial and error and that’s okay, stay open minded and try to have fun while you explore. Every toy won’t work for everybody and that’s okay, it’s about finding the best one for you,” Garcia tells Them. It’s like finding a therapist, you might have to spend some time shopping around. And lube is always your friend! Illustrations by Tevy Khou, find her on Instagram. Finger Vibrators Tevy Khou Finger VibratorsWhat They Do: Finger vibrators are usually rubbery (or ridged) pads you place over your fingertips, often composed of an adjustable ring with a pad that provides pleasure. Keep in mind, the bigger the bullet, the more intense the sensations they'll bring. They’re meant to be convenient, simple and easy to carry.How to Use Them: Garcia says tha